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What You Think is What You Get

by Tj Helm on 10,24,0909 in Personal Development

“Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of traveling.” — Margaret Lee Runbeck

What You Think is What You Get

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Learn How to Be Happy

by Tj Helm on 10,24,0909 in Personal Development

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You are responsible for your thoughts, feelings, actions, and emotions. No one else can make you think something, feeling anything, do something, or express anything. No matter what you think! Once you get clear about this you’ll know that only you can be happy or not. Yes, even if something bad happens, you don’t have to let the situation determine how you feel, act, or think. When you’re not happy think of something that you enjoy. Mine is puppies: little, fuzzy, pink-bellied, fluffy, puppies. Now, who can say “puppy” and not smile and be happy? Read this article and get more tips about how to be happy.

Learn How to Be Happy

By Julie Fuimano

“He’s simply got the instinct for being unhappy highly developed.” ~ Saki, British author (1870 – 1916)

Happiness is not about what you own, who you married, or what you collect. Happiness is feeling good – not having your life look good – and it can only be felt right now, in this moment. It cannot be projected into the future or relived from the past. Interestingly, people don’t necessarily know how to be happy. We are busy. We know how to do stuff and get things done. Generally, there is a pervasive discontent in society as we struggle to keep up with our own expectations, society’s expectations, and our family’s expectations. And when we cannot meet the unrealistic expectations about who we should be and what we should be doing, we feel bad. Guilt, shame, fear, disappointment, self-doubt even self-loathing erupts in us resulting in constant movement because if we stop, we might have to actually feel these “bad” feelings and that’s too upsetting to consider!

Inevitably, reality hits us, usually with a series of events meant to smack us in the face so we have no other option but to face our reality. These can be an illness, the sudden death of someone you know, a cancer scare, a friend’s affair or divorce, or even turning a certain age. It can be your weight when you step on the scale. Whatever the event, suddenly your world is turned upside down and you can no longer deny that you are not happy living the way you are living.

Interestingly, it may not be what you are doing that’s making you unhappy. You may have a great life. However, how you think about your life and what you are doing may be your difficulty. In other words, your thoughts and your beliefs are what may be causing your angst and your discontent.

Your Emotional Message System

As humans, we are blessed to have such a wonderful emotional system to inform us of things that require our attention. Many of us, however, are completely ill-prepared to handle this system and have not learned how to use it to our benefit. So we fumble about doing the best we can. It’s not like we are born with an instruction manual on how to deal with our emotions. And if we as adults don’t do it well, we will not be able to teach our children how to be emotionally competent.

Mastering your emotions is part of your human experience. The learning starts when you are a child. You learn by watching your parents and how they deal with emotions. You also learn through instruction. What were some of the messages you learned growing up? What response or reaction did you receive when you expressed an emotion? How was anger handled in your home? What about sadness, disappointment, or frustration? How did your family mourn losses? Were people generally happy? Did they know how to enjoy themselves?

Being told, “Don’t cry,” when you were sad has made an impact on you and may have created a belief about how you are supposed to deal with sadness. If your parents screamed at each other all the time, then you learned something about how couples get along. If no one talked to one another for days on end when they were angry, then that has left its mark on you as well. Unearthing your hidden beliefs about emotions and learning to be at choice rather than at the mercy of these old, unhealthy patterns will help you to feel in control about your emotional state.

Emotions are inner messages. They provide you with information which you can use to guide your behavior. Emotions enrich the experience you have while you are in your human form; they permeate every aspect of being human. There are no “bad” emotions. Emotions just are. We judge them as “bad” because we may not like to feel them or we fear them because we don’t have the skills to manage these emotions when they show up.

But people have just as much trouble with the “good” emotions such as happiness and joy as they do with so-called “bad” emotions such as anger, grief, or depression. We find ourselves spending most of our time worrying, full of anxiety, in a state of fear, and full of self-doubt. And because this is what we are used to, we are habituated; it’s more comfortable and familiar than happiness, joy and love. In order for us to change, to learn to be happy, then we must create new habits, habits that support our ability to embrace and experience the “good” emotions.

The Path to Happiness

The path to happiness – to respect, to inner peace, to feeling good about yourself and to being confident – is by honoring yourself and doing the things that make you feel good or comfortable. And when something feels bad, don’t do it. Choose to spend time with people who you enjoy being around. And when someone does something that feels bad, then tell them about it and, if need be, instruct them on what would feel good for you. If they don’t want to oblige and continue to do things that are of no value to you or that hurt you, then instead of trying to get them to change, just stop spending time with that person.

It sounds so simple, doesn’t it? So, why is it so hard?

It’s hard because there are so many things that get in the way of eliminating what feels bad and moving toward what feels good. We get in our own way. Most of the time, our heads get in the way; we do a lot of second guessing and we don’t trust ourselves or our feelings. So we behave in ways that do not reflect what we truly want and, therefore, our results are not what we want. This makes us unhappy and we don’t know how to make it better.

In addition, other people have their own heads and thoughts to contend with. They don’t do or say what they really mean either and we spend a lot of time guessing and making assumptions about what they want from us. It makes communication really, really difficult. And we wonder why there are so many single people and the divorce rate is so high!

At the most basic level, the path to happiness is to identify and eliminate the things that feel bad and identify and include the things that feel good. Each day, you have the opportunity to discover new things that you like and don’t like. Practice by being on the lookout for how you feel. It will take time, but with each choice you make to be happy in that moment, it will become easier and eventually, it will become habit. Then you’ll start looking for things that feel good and add value to your life and you’ll actually repel things that don’t. You’ll become attractive to good things! It may be hard to imagine, depending upon how you feel today, but one day at a time, with focus and a desire for change, you will succeed at happiness.

Julie Fuimano, MBA, BSN, RN, CSAC is dedicated to helping you break through the barriers to your happiness and success. She is a masterful coach, a motivational speaker and world-renowned writer and author. For additional resources and to sign up for her inspiring e-newsletter, visit http://www.NurturingYourSuccess.com or email Julie@NurturingYourSuccess.com. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Julie_Fuimano

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Our Words Create Our Future

by Tj Helm on 08,31,0909 in Personal Development

By Larry Barkan

I was recently coaching a person who told me that he would “try” to improve his relationship with a coworker but that it would be “very difficult” and that it would “take a lot of time to trust him.”

Consider the words that are in bold above. Could it be that while this person thinks he’s merely describing the future, he’s actually creating it? Could it be that our words actually produce results in the real world?

Consider these examples:

I was recently reading about Lanny Bassham, a former Olympic rifle shooter and “mental coach” whose clients include U.S. Olympic archers. Bassham notes that the archery community has a peculiar obsession with “target panic,” which refers to a malady sometimes suffered by champion archers who become so worried about hitting the target that they stop themselves from even attempting a shot.

Bassham says that, “the words ‘target panic’ have induced an unnecessary amount of severity and concern about this condition among archers.” He concludes by noting that, “I think if they had a better word for it, they’d have a lot less problem trying to cure it.” (I’ve bolded those words for emphasis).

In his book, The Perfect Mile, Neal Bascomb writes that, “On May 6, 1954, Roger Bannister became the first man to run the mile in less than 4 minutes, a barrier many experts had long considered unbreakable. What is remarkable is that Australia’s John Landy and New Zealand’s Peter Snell bettered his record that same year. Roger’s feat changed the thinking of people in countries all over the world.” (I’ve bolded those words for emphasis).

What do these examples have in common? They all suggest that the key to unlocking our chains lies in the words we use to describe our world.

Consider the possibility that if you want to know what stops someone from achieving a goal, listen to how the goal is described. Could it be that describing a goal as “difficult,” “strenuous,” or “tough” creates those outcomes and that talking about a goal as “achievable,” “exciting,” or “inspiring” creates outcomes that conform to those descriptions?

Isn’t it amazing how we can predict the future? Or, perhaps, not so amazing. Perhaps the process is quite straightforward: We predict how the future will occur when we describe that future and then, naturally, live out that prediction.

Or, as ancient wisdom has noted, “Be careful what you wish for. You may get it.”

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Personal Branding in Today's Market Place

by Tj Helm on 08,03,0909 in Personal Development

By George Metzger

It works for entrepreneurs, professionals, celebrities and job-seekers. Almost everyone is beginning to understand that personal or self-branding is what will put them ahead of the crowd.

If you are different from everyone else and you want to prove it to the world just create the personal branding of YOU.

So what is self-branding simplified? It is a clear understanding of what your personal attributes will bring to a specific situation or job. It is what makes you unique and it is a clear and common identifier of what you stand for.

Self-branding will differentiate between someone who is competent and even professional from one who generates a lot of business and income.

So what if you feel secure and know that you are doing a good job? Does this mean your career life will always go smoothly? No, because there is always someone out there that wants your place so you have to fight for it.

Many people have the perception that self-branding is phony. They don’t see that they are really that good at selling themselves. The facts are that those who do not self-brand will be branded by others. Maybe they will be perceived as lax or lazy about the importance of their career by not putting any effort into self-branding. If you allow this to happen then you are giving away your power to decide what your own self-branding will be.

Branding is a process that is created to sell YOU. Famous people have been using this process for a long time to sell themselves. You know from this example that it works. And doesn’t proof that it works prove it to be an effective method?

Now, you’ve decided to go about the process of self-branding you have to have a strategy to follow.

Build your self-branding identity to highlight your best skills and personal abilities.

Make a marketing plan that markets the new brand of YOU.

Set personal brand goals for yourself and a time line in which to achieve these goals.

You are now on the path to all new brand YOU.

George Metzger is a business coach and mentor that assists serious entrepreneurs in building a profitable online business with multiple incomes streams. George and his team have assisted hundreds of people in generating profits that exceed $250K or more in their first year. For more information and to contact George, visit: http://www.buildafortuneonlinetoday.com

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How to Create a Winning Personal Image

by Tj Helm on 05,01,0909 in Personal Development

By Dr. Raymond Comeau
The image that we project goes a long way to influence people and if we want to have any success in life, influencing people is a prerequisite. To make a sale, we have to influence people, to get a promotion, we must influence people, to implement any agenda that we may have, we must influence people and the image that we project is the medium that will determine, to a large degree, our effectiveness in influencing and motivating others to our way of thinking.

First it must be understood that the personal image is not primarily addressed to the left brain logic but to the right brain emotions. We feel a person’s image much more than we coldly analyze it. A person is “seen” with the heart and not with the brain.

It must also be remembered that our interpretation of a personal images is determined by what is called an “a priori.” An a priori is a deduction made from past observations and conclusion. In other words, we evaluate what a person’s image means to us by automatically comparing it to our previous experience of similar images.

As and example, most people would see a chubby person as being jovial and easy going. Such a conclusion is not based on facts but on previous experience and popular notions. An image is exactly what it says, it’s an image and not a reality so it can be rebuilt, modified and enhanced to our advantage.

When working on the personal image, the first consideration must be the target of the intended image. What will appeal to teenagers will be vastly different than if the business or professional world is targeted. The rock star image will go quite well with teenagers while Donald Trump will be more fitting in the business or professional world.

The image presented will be perceived mostly by the senses and it must appeal to what’s needed and wanted by your targeted community. That is, if you are a businessman, you must look like a prosperous businessman who does not have a care in the world, talk the part and walk it. However, if you are in the community service you cannot afford to go around in a Rolls Royce wearing $3,000 suits. The image must fit the community.

The best role models for the personal image are the people who are successful in your field. These people should be studied, copied and emulated as much as possible.

The personal image is the tribune upon which a person stands to deliver his message. It is the lens through which a person is judged, cataloged and perceived. It is the “you” that the world see, accept, reject or ignore. It is your personal brand for all to see. A lot of your successes and failures depend on it. So, treat it well, improve it as much as possible but don’t get bent out of shape if it happens to be rejected by some.

You can’t please everyone every time. So, don’t overlook the positive many for the negative few. Create the best possible personal image and wear it proudly. It’s your personal trademark for all to see so make it a good one.

Dr. Raymond Comeau aka Shamou is the Author of ShamouBlog http://shamoublog.com/ and Administrator of Personal Development for Personal Success Forums.Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Dr._Raymond_Comeau

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Three Easy Tips to Supercharge Your Affirmations For Dramatic Success

by Tj Helm on 03,21,0909 in Personal Development

By George Hutton
Affirmations can be the quickest and easiest to apply method to powerfully transform not only what you think is possible about your capabilities, but about the world that you live in. All of us have unconscious thoughts and messages that we pick up from teachers, coaches, adults in authority, or even from ourselves that play over and over again. Whether you know it or not, you use affirmations on a daily basis. Unfortunately, messages give to us by adults to keep us safe, can also keep us from achieving the goals we desire later in life. Messages of guidance can easily transform into messages of limitation.

There is a way to change these messages to give yourself incredible confidence, self esteem, and personal power. When you finish reading this article, you’ll easily be able to create simple affirmations that you can use to propel yourself to automatic success. There are three simple rules to learn, so that your affirmations will have a maximum effect.

Rule Number One: State Them in the Positive.
You want to focus on what you want, rather than you don’t want. Instead of focusing on losing five pounds, focus on being your ideal weight. Instead of focusing on quitting smoking, focus on breathing fresh, healthy air with every breath. Instead of focusing on quitting eating ice cream for breakfast, focus on eating healthy foods that support a healthy body.

Rule Number Two: State Things in the Present Tense.
Instead of saying “I want to weigh 150,” pounds, say “I weigh 150 pounds.” Instead of saying “I want to cut back on the number of sweets,” say “I only eat healthy food.” Instead of saying “I will quit smoking next week,” say “I only breath fresh clean air with every breath.”

Rule Number Three: Avoid “Be” verbs and use Powerful Action Verbs
Instead of saying “I am confident,” say “I behave confidently in every situation.” Instead of saying “I weigh 150 pounds,” say “My behavior easily supports a healthy weight of 150 pounds.” Instead of saying “I am a non smoker,” say “I treat my lungs and body with respect and always inhale clean, fresh air.”

If you can, try this now. Choose something that you want to create in life, and apply these three rules. Say it out loud. How does that feel? The more empowered you feel, right now, as you say your affirmation is an indication of how you will take it as your truth. When you say something that causes you to feel a strong emotion, your brain will be much more likely to accept it.

The best time to say these is as you fall asleep at night. This can be a golden opportunity to powerfully program your subconscious for automatic success generation. Ideally, you want to live your life so that you can naturally and easily get what you want without a lot of effort. For more articles to easily help you achieve greater success like this, you can join many others like you, and read more on my blog.

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Secrets of Successful Relationships

by Tj Helm on 02,24,0909 in Personal Development

By Emma-Louise Smith
Everybody wants to have a successful relationship. Who doesn’t? Some people envy other people’s seemingly perfect relationship. You might be asking yourself, what’s their secret?

If you want to find out some secrets of successful relationships, read the following sentences.

Love. This is a no-brainer. No relationship will survive if there is no love. One-sided love is also not good, maybe even worse. This does not only mean that you have to love your boyfriend or girlfriend, it also means you have to love yourself.

Trust. Another foundation of a successful relationship is trust. A relationship with love but without trust will not work. it is very difficult to stay in a relationship if one person is always jealous while the other is untrustworthy.

Communication. This is somewhat related to trust. Open communication is very important. Couples shouldn’t hide anything from each other. This can destroy trust. Communication how you feel about certain issues in your relationship is a good idea instead of harbouring bad feelings to your partner.

Time. Despite busy schedules, couples should still make it a point to spend a few hours each day doing together. It need not be an all-out romantic date. It could be as simple as cuddling while watching TV at home.

Touch. It has been said that a man will not be able to live if no human being will touch him. Touching each other is a way to show affection. Even as simple as touching your partner’s cheek or caressing his or her lower back can say so much.

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Communication – How to Listen With Curiosity

by Tj Helm on 10,31,0808 in Personal Development

By Melinda Elliott

I’ll be honest – until a few years ago I thought I was right most of the time. And not just about my life, but about what was best for others. I was humbled when I finally I stepped back and really listened to other people’s ideas – I realized that while my conclusions and solutions might be right for me, they often weren’t right for them.

In my first coaching class we were taught to “stay in curiosity”; to simply ask questions without drawing conclusions or trying to guide others to “see it our way”. This was a rude awakening for many of the students in the class – we’d come to coaching because we felt we had wisdom to share. What I learned was that people’s thoughts, perceptions and conclusions often had no resemblance to my own, and what I thought was right for them was often flat out wrong.

Staying in curiosity isn’t just for coaches. Staying in curiosity will help you be a better partner, parent, boss, co-worker or team member. Learning to stay open with others is powerful for both you and them – you have the benefit of learning about others, and they have the treat of being really listened to with respect and openness.

Try these 5 tips for staying in curiosity:
1. Don’t assume that you know what the other person is thinking or feeling.
It’s true that when you’ve known someone a long time you might have a good idea about what’s going on with them. But what’s key here is that you might not. You might have been making incorrect assumptions about them for years! And we all change, what was true about someone yesterday might not be true today.

2. Listen
So often when someone is talking to us we are mentally crafting our replies, evaluating what they are saying, or, sometimes, we might even be off composing our grocery list.

To really listen:

Keep your mind clear of opinions, answers and conclusions. Seek to discover what information the speaker is providing.

Stay neutral, don’t shift your focus to your emotional response or start trying to figure out solutions.

Let the other person finish, don’t interrupt or jump in with your thoughts.

3. Don’t provide solutions or give advice
Ouch! We all love to provide our insights to others, especially when we think we can help. And we may even be right some of the time! However, the fact is that all of us are much more inspired by solutions we design ourselves than those provided by others. There’s a great deal of value to be gained by going through the process of figuring out what to do; we learn more about ourselves, the situation we are in, and how to succeed when we seek our own solutions.

4. Avoid soothing
It can be uncomfortable to listen to other’s hurts and problems; we want to make their sorrow go away. Sometimes we try to sooth others with statements like “Everything will be ok.” Or we inadvertently invalidate other’s feelings with comments like “I know you’re sad your best friend moved away, but you’ll find other friends.” As hard as it is, it’s a wonderful gift to someone to just be there for them when they’re in pain, and listen to them work though it without trying to fix things or make the hurt go away.

5. Stay curious
As people talk to you, get curious about what they are experiencing. The best curious questions are short and simple and are directed at the speaker’s current experience and feelings. Some examples of curious questions – “How do you feel about what she said?”, “What’s the most stressful aspect of this situation?” or “What’s your biggest concern?” Notice that none of the questions attempt to lead the speaker to a solution, they just allow space for them to process their experience.

Staying open when listening to others isn’t easy. I still find myself dishing out unasked for advice, or cutting people off when I think I know what they are going to say. But really being curious is a lovely gift to give to others, and you’ll be surprised what you can learn when you aren’t stuck in your own preconceptions.

Test your knowledge of curious questions below. Identify whether each question or comment is:
A) Disguised advice B) Curious C) Soothing
1. Are you sure you don’t want to do it this way?
2. I know it was bad, but it will be better tomorrow!
3. How did you react when he said that to you?
4. Oh don’t say that – you know it isn’t true!
5. What is important about this?
6. Do you think you should tell your manager?

Answers: 1 A, 2 C, 3 B, 4 C, 5 B, 6 A

© Melinda Elliott 2008
Melinda Elliott is a certified Life Coach who works with people to achieve the life they want. Through coaching, Melinda can help you leverage your strengths, smash your roadblocks, and create the life you’re dreaming of. For more information or to request a free Sample Session, visit http://www.melindaelliottcoaching.com
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Effective Communication – A Two Way Street

by Tj Helm on 10,31,0808 in Personal Development

By Michael Jeffreys

Effective communication involves several different aspects. Although verbal communication is the most common way that people correspond, there are many other specific characteristics involved in the interaction. Let’s take listening, for instance. If someone is talking to another person, but the other person is distracted and isn’t really ‘hearing’ what the speaker is saying, then communication is ineffective. Many people think that listening is simple, but it actually takes skill and practice in order to perfect it. No one is a born listener. A listener has to search for specific clues from a speaker. Verbal communication is often accentuated by body language, eye contact and paraphrasing and good listeners have to recognize when a speaker is using these characteristics to get their point across.

Sometimes body language says a lot more than words do when it comes to verbal communication. A person may claim to be listening to what someone is saying to them, but if the listener is bored or distracted while the other person is talking to them, then it will be quite obvious. The listener may appear to stare into space, not comment at appropriate times or may not even comment at all. However, being a good listener does not always involve commenting on what the speaker is saying. Sometimes it’s not necessary for an individual to utter a single word in order to be considered an avid listener. In certain situations during verbal communication, the person speaking may be satisfied with the eye contact, head shakes, murmurs or the facial expressions of the listener. Body language is an essential part of communication and often determines the effectiveness of the verbal interaction.

Another extremely important aspect of verbal communication is eye contact. Eye contact is the perfect way to get someone’s attention without using verbal communication. It’s subtle yet effective. It doesn’t matter if the people involved in the conversation are complete strangers, if the communication is to be effective; eye contact is a necessary part of the conversation. Without eye contact, two people can’t connect on an emotional level, which makes the interaction useless. For example, how would a psychiatric patient feel if the psychiatrist never looked at them?

Paraphrasing is also essential during verbal communication. Paraphrasing is repeating what a person has just stated, although using a summarized version. The use of paraphrasing allows the speaker to accentuate specific and highly important portions of a conversation. It is often used to clarify direction or confirm agreement among all of the parties communicating. Paraphrasing is very useful to a listener, as well, because it allows the listener to key into specifically what the speaker believes are the most important portions of the topic they are discussing.

Communicating one’s feelings is as much a learned skill as being a good listener. Some people have a difficult time properly expressing their feelings, which could adversely affect the verbal communication process by creating miscommunication and misunderstanding. No one is a mind reader. If a person only offers a listener partial information then there will undoubtedly be trouble at the end of the communication road.

There are two critical aspects to effective communication; properly expressing one’s feeling to avoid misunderstandings and effective listening. If either of these keys to successful communication is missing, then the interaction won’t go smoothly and there will be problems. Make sure that you are both a good listener and a good communicator.

Michael Jeffreys is the president of Seminars on DVD, a premiere provider of video based training for businesses and individuals, featuring renowned experts and speakers. Learn more at: http://www.SeminarsOnDVD.com
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Why Argue? Keeping the Lines of Communication Open

by Tj Helm on 10,31,0808 in Personal Development

By Dr. Jackie Black

A minor disagreement can get out of hand very quickly or a simple conversation can suddenly turn into a shouting match.

Why?
Because your fear of being abandoned, or disappointing your partner makes itself the primary consideration in the conversation.

Hearing another person’s opinion or point of view can trigger the feeling of being invalidated, and for many people, it’s a signal that ridicule, criticism or judgment is on the way!

Good communication is telling your truth about YOU to others and being congruent — within yourself.
Being congruent is a process in which you value yourself; you take ownership of your thoughts and feelings, and your resources and choices; honor and express your deepest knowing about yourself and be sure that what you say and how you say it match what you are feeling.
vThere are three major reasons that men and women don’t communicate effectively.

First and foremost, most people do not identify their feelings accurately.

Secondly, it is very difficult for most people to find the right words to express how they feel.

Lastly, if they do know how they feel and if they have a few words to accurately express how they feel, most lack the courage to let anybody know.

Does this sound like you or others you know? Identifying your feelings, finding the right words to express your feelings and mustering the courage to actually express your feelings to another person really isn’t so complicated.

Don’t avoid saying what is in your heart or on your mind to say.
Don’t hide your worries because you don’t want your partner to know that you are not in control.

Don’t hide your hopes and dreams because you are afraid no one will share your excitement.

When you stay emotionally intelligent and emotionally available the lines of communication stay open. Create a safe and supportive place to tell each other the truth mindfully, responsibly and respectfully and always remember that the foundation of your relationship is built on good will and good intention.

Remember, only You can make it happen!

Copyright Dr. Jackie Black 2008
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Dr. Jackie is the author of Meeting Your Match (http://www.authorhouse.com/BookStore/ItemDetail~bookid~39827.aspx) – Cracking the Code to Successful Relationships written to support men and women who are committed to learning and practicing essential relationship success skills.
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“Going through this coaching experience gave me an opportunity to work through an in-depth exploration of my core belief system and develop a deeper relationship with God. The journey was very growth producing for me. I loved the experience.” -Sharon J.

“TJ was the true mentor I never had growing up.” -Henry C.

“Coaching is a time commitment, for sure, and for me it has been well worth it. TJ’s coaching helped me define my goals, make them actionable and successfully pursue them. Coaching helped me accomplish my primary goal of delivering a successful and well-received executive presentation. I feel I would not have been as successful had I not sought coaching. In addition to the executive presentation, TJ’s coaching has made me a more comfortable and confident manager. She gave me a tool (as well as others) to help me figure out my communication style and those of others so that I communicate more effectively. Our coaching sessions were very interactive. We had different communication styles, which I appreciated; when I would go off on a tangent, TJ would laser in on the main point of discussion and bring me back on track. TJ’s helpful management tips and communication tools are treasures I can use every day to be a more effective manager. I truly helped myself by investing in coaching.” -Cynthia L.

“TJ created a very safe space in which to review my life. She listened with compassion while still encouraging me to look at my feelings and set an intent for my actions. She is an itelligent coach who cares about her clients enough to keep them focused on their goals.”

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